Teen Advice: Advice to Your 15 Year Old Self

Teen Advice

If I knew then what I know now… but would I have listened?  Teen Advice is a plentiful as leaves on a tree, but here is a bit of a twist.

I asked many people this question:

If you could go back in time, what advice would you give your 15-year-old self, knowing what you know now?

I’ve been compiling and publishing what you said. It seems like a great way to herald the arrival of my newest book, Awesome Moms Communication Handbook: How To Keep Your Daughter From Slamming the Door.

Each week for 8 weeks, I will publish a blog post featuring the advice from several volunteers, each from a different decade. Here’s the twist: Their ages and their advice will be scrambled. You have to figure out who said what based on what would be typical of their age.

Return here every week to see if you got the answers correct. Sometimes you will. Sometimes you won’t. Why? Because your advice for teenagers is universal and timeless.

If you would like to offer your advice for YOUR 15-year-old self (not a current teenager), enter it here, and maybe it will be selected:

 Teen Advice Answers for the Week of October 2, 2017:


Amanda, 17: Don’t be so defensive. Be more confident.

Twenties: Brian, 25: Be myself. I was very quiet. I limited myself by not taking opportunities because I was shy. I would tell myself to open up.

Thirties: Karen, 39: Stay focused in school because you’ll gain more knowledge and you’ll be more independent.

Fourties: Pam, 43: What am I going to tell me who knew everything? You’re going to be alright. It’s just going to take a really long time to get there.

Fifties: Laura, 57: You don’t have to change who you are to please a guy, or to fit in with those clique-y girls. Be bold enough to form your own group of friends who are more like you. Seek them out and make a group.

Sixties: Susan, 67: Don’t think that every crisis is the end of the world. This too shall pass.

Seventies: Gunilla, 77: Listen to your heart. You already have some inner hints about what really matters to you.

Eighties +: Ruth, 83: Don’t rush too fast. Just because the other kids are trying it, back away and say no because your time is coming, and you will get there soon enough.

 Teen Advice Answers for the Week of October 9, 2017:

Teens: Lauren, 16: Follow your gut feeling instead of self-denial.

Twenties: Laurel, 21: Do things for yourself. Love yourself. Work the relationship out with yourself first.

Thirties: Andre, 32: Listen to my parents.

Fourties: Carriann, 46: You learn from your mistakes and you keep going. I wouldn’t change anything. Otherwise the kids I have now would not be who they are. Everything you go through, no matter how hard, is a learning experience.

Fifties: Tim, 50: Enjoy your 15 year old self. Don’t be in a rush.

Sixties: Theresa, 60: Study! Life is not a party. You may think it is when you are 15, but then you pay the piper later. You end up struggling. PS: You don’t know everything!

Seventies: David, 72: Keep your eyes open and your mouth shut.

Eighties +: Elvie, 81: Don’t think about your shortcomings. Think about the positive aspects about yourself.