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May’s Parenting Strategies

Mother’s Day Month ends today, so I’m going to use this post to share links to what we did. There’s a lot of helpful info contained here, so you bookmark this post so you can come back and watch when you have time.

Also, the longer videos are time-stamped so you can go directly to the topic you want. Enjoy, and get ready to have an Awesome summer!

Facebook Live Q&A. Watch this special Parenting Q&A just for Mother’s Day. Submit your questions for future Q&As at info@DeborahAnnDavis.com.

00:00 Intro
1:30 Is it okay for my younger child to watch the same TV that my older children are watching? Is it okay for them to read the same books?
4:00 How can I reduce my child’s academic stress?
7:40 The other moms in my daughter’s class seem to be handling quarantine better than me. How can I catch up?
11:19 How can I de-escalate a blow-up I can see coming a mile away?
15:40 How do I approach my daughter after she slams the door?
17:50 Closing

Facebook Live Reading from “How To Keep Your Daughter From Slamming the Door.”

00:00 Intro
00:40 Are you an awesome mom?
6:00 “How I’m Awesome” Activity
7:00 Continue reading from “How To Keep Your Daughter From Slamming the Door.”
14:15 Conclusion

Awesome Mom Tribe Origin Story.

Read more at https://DeborahAnnDavis.com/the-mom-tribe/

Facebook Live Reading from “Manifested Blessings.”

00:00 Introduction
00:58 Excerpt Reading from “Manifested Blessings.” The story is called, “A Hole In My Heart.”
10:00 Excerpt Reading from “How To Keep Your Daughter From Slamming the Door.”
15:10 Closing

Mom Minute Video: 3Rs of the Awesome Mom Philosophy.

I know you’re busy (after all, you’re a mom), so these Mom Minutes are deliberately kept short.

Facebook Live Reading from “Power of Your Inner Brilliance.”

00:00 Introduction
00:55 Introducing “The Power of Your Inner Brilliance.”
01:50 Excerpt Reading from “The Power of Your Inner Brilliance.” The Story is called, “The Positive Side of a Crushing Experience.”
20:40 Closing

Mom Minute Video: Train Your Brain.

I know you’re busy (after all, you’re a mom), so these Mom Minutes are deliberately kept short.

Mother’s Day Story

Watch to learn why mother-daughter relationships are important.


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Awesome Moms Tell Your Tweens + Teens

Do You and Daddy Still Have Sex?

Here’s a mother-daughter relationship breakdown:

“Hey, Mom?”

I froze at the sound of my daughter’s voice, trying to figure out if I should run and hide, or stay and chat. There’s something in its questioning quality that, after years of experience, told me I should’ve run. However, it was too late. She’d cornered me in the laundry room.

“Yes, honey?” I heroically kept my voice from quavering.

“Do you and Daddy still have sex?”

BOOM! I knew it! I had heard that little something in her voice warning me I was about to be blindsided.

But, I was ready. I knew exactly what to do. I’d been fielding these kinds of questions ever since she started school. What unnerved me was wondering what gem she was about to hit me with. I responded with my fallback deflection.

Why do you ask?”

You see, when your child corners you with questions you may not be ready to answer, responding with another question is a great deflection. Besides, many times the question she’s asking is not what’s really on her mind. It’s the product of whatever she’s been mulling over. My question cuts to the heart of the matter.

Questions like, “Why do you want to know?” refocus her mind on some earlier experience that had led to the question. That’s really what she wants to discuss, so we have a loving conversation while folding laundry. Crisis averted! 

In our family, these moments typically originated from a conversation at school, or a scenario in some show.  Sometimes it even came from a book. Those moments provided insight to her mind’s workings. We were able to offer guidance, and we strengthened our parent-child bond in the process.

It worked like a charm for years… until she reached her sophomore year.

“Hey, Mom?”

“Yes, honey?” I jammed my hands into my pockets to hide my clutching fingers. Lately, the questions were getting into more uncomfortable areas.

“Do you and Daddy still have sex?”

Yup, the little voice had warned me! I squared my shoulders and proceeded with confidence. “Why do you ask?”

“No reason. I just want to know.”

Deflection deflected? That was new. Slogging on despite the initial failure, I calmly place my hands on my lap. “What made you bring that up now?

“I’ve been thinking about it for a while, and I really want to know.”

I was in uncharted waters here. This was the first time distracting questions hadn’t worked. It looked like I might actually have to answer her this time. But, I had one more trick up my sleeve.

I leaned in, looked her in the eye, and said, “Don’t ask me a question, honey, that you really don’t want to hear the answer to.”

She blinked at me once, spun around on her heel and fled out the door… and never brought it up again. 

Years later I shared a laugh with my cherub when I reminded her of that story. I couldn’t resist teasing her. “Do you want to know the answer now?”

“Ewww, Mom! No!”

The end. 😉

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