LadyTime Podcast: How to keep your daughter from slamming doors, talking to Deborah Ann Davis

00:00 Intro

00:47 Deborah’s Experience with Middle Age

4:13 “How To Keep Your Daughter From Slamming the Door” and How To Handle School Dances

10:12 “Perfect Mom” versus “Awesome Mom”

14:30 Personality Styles

24:00 Deborah’s Greatest Achievements and Challenges

31:50 Scheduling Self-Care

36:00 Inspiration for “How To Get Your Happy On”

45:18 Using “How To Get Your Happy On” in Middle Age

52:30 Deborah’s Visions and Hopes for the Future




Have questions? Contact Deborah today.

About the Author

Deborah Ann Davis (B.S. in Science Education, M.Ed. in Supervision, and W.I.T.S Personal Trainer Certified) is a parenting strategist and coach.

Whether you’re looking to bring more positivity into your life, or you’re ready to seek the advice of a Parenting Coach, she’s eager to help you put happiness back into parenting.

Deborah has helped hundreds of families over the years, using her experience as an educator and a mother. She has decades of experience dealing with teenagers – as a mother and an educator.


Learn how to improve your mother-daughter relationship today. Every minute you delay prolongs the isolation your child feels while disconnected from you. She’s waiting for you to figure it out, so why not skip the “trial and error” route? 


Don’t forget to book your free Clarity Consult

Teenage Tantrums? Venn Diagrams to the Rescue

Not all teenage girls fly off the handle, or blow things out of proportion. But Mom, if you happen to be living with your very own human rollercoaster, it can be very difficult to find resolution for many topics, and especially the more volatile subjects.

Deborah’s Sage Parent Coaching Advice…

The good news is parents can use the Venn Diagram to reduce the number of arguments in your home. It worked for me and mine, so, when applied correctly, I know it can work for you and yours.


Use the valiant Venn Diagram whenever you have a choice to make together, or when you have differing opinions. Draw the two circles, designating one for you and one for her. Then brainstorm.

As the ideas spill from your lips, and your daughter’s, separate the ones she’s not keen on from the ones that curdle your cream by placing them into their designated spheres.

When Do You Use This Parenting Strategy, Mom?

Put the awesome ones you both enjoy into the splendiferous Section C. If she wrote something that you like, add it to the Section C pile (and vice versa). Now you can focus on the items in that saucy Section C. It’s your very own common ground. Use it to choose and activity to do together, and Voila! The positive vibes it creates will bolster your relationship!

When Do You Use This Parenting Strategy, Mom?

Here are 6 topics that you can explore together once you lay the groundwork:

  • What she should be allowed to wear
  • How much makeup is appropriate
  • Hemlines and necklines
  • Food and beverage intake
  • Movies, music and books
  • Dating, parties and socializing

You are both going to love the great and powerful Venn Diagram! It’s wonderful if you’ve been banging heads, because your child will feel heard by you. Great interactions lead to greater understanding of each other.

You can find a ton more ideas and strategies in my book, How To Keep Your Daughter From Slamming the Door(available everywhere).

Here’s a free printable copy of the Valuable Venn Diagram.

Remember: Building a good relationship is a marathon, not a sprint. Use the Venn Diagram in good health! 


Have questions? Contact Deborah today.

About the Author

Deborah Ann Davis (B.S. in Science Education, M.Ed. in Supervision, and W.I.T.S Personal Trainer Certified) is a parenting coach and strategist.

Whether you’re looking to bring more positivity into your life, or you’re ready to seek the advice of a Parenting Coach, she’s eager to help you put happiness back into parenting.

Deborah has helped hundreds of families over the years, using her experience as an educator and a mother. She has decades of experience dealing with teenagers – as a mother and an educator.


Learn how to improve your mother-daughter relationship today. Every minute you delay prolongs the isolation your child feels while disconnected from you. She’s waiting for you to figure it out, so why not skip the “trial and error” parenting route? 


Don’t forget to book your free Clarity Consult


Ways to Parent with the Venn Diagram

“What if my teenage daughter and I don’t get along? What if it seems like every time I approach her, she gets moody or sullen, or we end up arguing? How can I improve our relationship?”

Glad you asked!

Deborah’s Sage Parent Coaching Advice…

Welcome to the Versatile Venn Diagram, that splendiferous, fabulously perfect illustration for parents and kids of Common Ground. It’s a graphic used to clarify differences and similarities, and in the right hands, can teach your kids how to negotiate gracefully.


Math uses them.

Science uses them.

And now, Awesome Moms can parent with them!

The Revered Venn Diagram

Circle A represents your choices. Circle B represents your daughter’s choices. Circle A choices makes her roll her eyes and throw her hands up in frustration. The choices in Circle B make your teeth grind.


But the intersection of those two circles at the splendid Section C, that overlapping of your two worlds, that is where the magic happens. 

Section C is your friend. 

Section C consists of the choices you both love.

Section C is the magical realm of Everybody Wins, void of conflict and competition. 

Section C is where relationships are skirmish-free, and conflict goes to die. 

Section C saved my daughter and myself from many a temper tantrum. (And I don’t just mean hers!)

I LOVE Section C of This Parenting Tool!

I first realized I was going to need some kind of clothes-shopping strategy when my five-year-old began arguing over every outfit. She wanted ensembles that exposed her little round tummy. My mind fast-forwarded ten years, and I knew I was in trouble.


One day I was using the graphic in my classroom to teach comparing and contrasting opposing scientific theories. Suddenly it hit me. I could use that undervalued Venn Diagram to diffuse petty arguments when my Awesome Daughter didn’t buy into my opinion. Yes, the sublime Section C of the venerable Venn Diagram came to my rescue.


From that point forth, I always marched to the mall armed with Section C of a viable Venn Diagram. Shopping for clothes with my daughter instantly transformed into a fun and pleasurable experience for both of us.

Before we’d leave for the store, I’d orient us both by making two circles with my fingers, and holding them up so the circles overlapped. Voila! Instant Venn Diagram visual.


“This,” I’d say, waving around my right hand, “is what I love on you. This…” I’d shake my left hand in front of her nose, “is what you love on you.”


Overlapping the two circles, I would peer through the oval my fingers created at my daughter, that superb Section C. “And this is what we’re going to buy. You’re not going to argue with me, and I’m not going to argue with you, because everything in here will be something we both love.”

Moms Can Rock the Venn Diagram

This parenting tool always worked for me and my girl, but with three caveats.

1. She had to try on everything I suggested.

2. I had to permit her to try on anything she wanted to.

3. There was no arguing allowed because…

• We were both entitled to our opinions.

• Arguing wasted time for both of us.

“Arguing with an angry teenager is like trying to teach a pig to sing. The pig never learns how to sing; plus, you just end up annoying the pig.”

If my daughter started fussing about a garment I was nixing, I’d just hold up my fingers to form that sassy Section C and say, “Venn Diagram, sweetie, Venn Diagram. Remember, you’re going to love everything you bring home.”


She’d calm right down. Besides, whatever it was she had been pining for was forgotten by the time her purchases were displayed on her bed for Daddy to see. Yes, every time we shopped, we returned home with our bundles, individually satisfied that we had gotten our own way.

Here’s a free printable copy of the Valuable Venn Diagram.

Remember: building a relationship is a marathon, not a sprint. Use it in good health! 

Send me an email Info@DeborahAnnDavis.com if you’d like a ton more ideas and strategies on bridging the gap between you and your kids.


Have questions? Contact Deborah today.

About the Author

Deborah Ann Davis (B.S. in Science Education, M.Ed. in Supervision, and W.I.T.S Personal Trainer Certified) is a parenting coach and strategist.

Whether you’re looking to bring more positivity into your life, or you’re ready to seek the advice of a Parenting Coach, she’s eager to help you put happiness back into parenting.

Deborah has helped hundreds of families over the years, using her experience as an educator and a mother. She has decades of experience dealing with teenagers – as a mother and an educator.


Learn how to improve your mother-daughter relationship today. Every minute you delay prolongs the isolation your child feels while disconnected from you. She’s waiting for you to figure it out, so why not skip the “trial and error” parenting route? 


Don’t forget to book your free Clarity Consult


How Did I Get Here?*

The Unexpected Journey From Teacher to Author


My mom says I’m the only person she knows who likes to pull up her roots and move. Born in Kentucky, raised in Connecticut, educated in Massachusetts and Georgia, life was good.

And then, just to put icing on a gluten-free cake, out of the blue I landed my high school sweetheart 15 years after our first kiss <sigh> so I got to move around with his job (yay!).

I am a bonafide move-aholic. In my spare time (if I had any) I try to live a sustainable life, write novels, dance, play, and laugh really hard every day. Occasionally I ask myself, How Did I Get Here?


As a high school science teacher, moving never posed a problem. I could always find employment in a new town. Good thing, because I just love teaching science. It has to be the coolest subject under the sun- environmental, biology, ecology, meteorology, astronomy, geology, oceanography- I love them all. I’ve taught high school and middle school; urban and rural; upper middle class and poverty level; Hispanics, blacks and whites; English as a second language learners and English abusers.

Scar Bearers – Deborah Ann Davis (Part 2)

00:00 Intro

1:48 Car Crash Recap and Effects

6:25 Swimming After Effects

9:10 Being in the Passenger Seat

13:04 EFT and healing the passenger seat effects

22:30 Deborah’s car accident and prom night

25:14 How the car accident changed Deborah’s perspective

26:42 *Discussion of Suicide*

29:50 *Discussion of Eating Disorders*

35:34 Deborah’s scars




Have questions? Contact Deborah today.

About the Author

Deborah Ann Davis (B.S. in Science Education, M.Ed. in Supervision, and W.I.T.S Personal Trainer Certified) is a parenting strategist and coach.

Whether you’re looking to bring more positivity into your life, or you’re ready to seek the advice of a Parenting Coach, she’s eager to help you put happiness back into parenting.

Deborah has helped hundreds of families over the years, using her experience as an educator and a mother. She has decades of experience dealing with teenagers – as a mother and an educator.


Learn how to improve your mother-daughter relationship today. Every minute you delay prolongs the isolation your child feels while disconnected from you. She’s waiting for you to figure it out, so why not skip the “trial and error” route? 


Don’t forget to book your free Clarity Consult

Scar Bearers – Deborah Ann Davis (Part 1)

2:43 How Deborah Ann Davis became an Educator

22:33 Teaching in Atlanta, Georgia

32:30 Teaching in Hartford, Connecticut

36:28 Lyme Disease and Writing

40:13 Writing “How To Keep Your Daughter From Slamming the Door” and “How To Get Your Happy On”




Have questions? Contact Deborah today.

About the Author

Deborah Ann Davis (B.S. in Science Education, M.Ed. in Supervision, and W.I.T.S Personal Trainer Certified) is a parenting strategist and coach.

Whether you’re looking to bring more positivity into your life, or you’re ready to seek the advice of a Parenting Coach, she’s eager to help you put happiness back into parenting.

Deborah has helped hundreds of families over the years, using her experience as an educator and a mother. She has decades of experience dealing with teenagers – as a mother and an educator.


Learn how to improve your mother-daughter relationship today. Every minute you delay prolongs the isolation your child feels while disconnected from you. She’s waiting for you to figure it out, so why not skip the “trial and error” route? 


Don’t forget to book your free Clarity Consult

Is Parent Coaching For Me? 

Make the Most of Your Efforts To Improve Your Mother-Daughter Relationship  

As a mother, you may feel distance growing between yourself and your daughter as she enters into her teenage years. Perhaps your daughter seems sad. Maybe she’s snarky and has an attitude. Possibly you struggle to get her to open up to you instead of seeking advice from her friends.


These kinds of difficulties are not unique to your particular mother-daughter relationship. Plenty of moms before you have experienced the same thing, as will plenty of mothers who will come after you. 


Regardless, you don’t have to settle for the status quo. There are plenty of ways, aside from relying on maternal instinct and common sense, to improve your situation. Sometimes, you just need an objective set of eyes to provide a different perspective to help you make the most of your efforts. to improve your Mother-Daughter Relationship.

Seek Parent Coaching For Mother-Daughter Relationships 

How would you like dozens of years of experience distilled down into strategies you can use right away? Instead of making it up as you go along, seek the help you need to improve your mother-daughter relationship.

Don’t worry if you don’t know where to start. Just contact me. If you’re new here, I’m Deborah Ann Davis, a parenting coach and strategist. If this is your first time on my blog, Merry Meddling, welcome!

As your parent coach, I’m ready to help you improve your mother-daughter relationship. With my B.S., my M.Ed. in Supervision, and my certification as a W.I.T.S. Personal Trainer, plus 27 years in the classroom, you can be sure I know my stuff when it comes to finding the perfect parenting strategies to suit your relationship (not to mention, I am a mother myself). 

Is Parent Coaching For Me? 

If you’re looking to improve your mother-daughter relationship in any way, parent coaching can speed up the process by laser-focusing your efforts. Whether you’re struggling to deal with the eye-rolling and door-slamming behaviors that characterize the teenage years, or you’re worried that your relationship with your daughter is broken somehow, I’m ready to listen to you, and eager to offer the help you need.  


Parent Coaching is for you if you’re a parent who: 

> is already banging heads with their kids 

> hasn’t started banging heads with their kids… yet!


My process is simple. We first concentrate on identifying the needs of your mother-daughter relationship, and then we prioritize them. We also look at what’s already working so you can capitalize on it. I offer strategic ideas, and you pick the ones that resonates with you to try first.


You can begin the process immediately when you book your free Clarity Consult

Bridge the Gaps Between Mothers and Daughters With Expert Parent Coaching” 




Have questions? Contact Deborah today.

About the Author

Deborah Ann Davis (B.S. in Science Education, M.Ed. in Supervision, and W.I.T.S Personal Trainer Certified) is a parenting coach and strategist.

Whether you’re looking to bring more positivity into your life, or you’re ready to seek the advice of a Parenting Coach, she’s eager to help you put happiness back into parenting.

Deborah has helped hundreds of families over the years, using her experience as an educator and a mother. She has decades of experience dealing with teenagers – as a mother and an educator.


Learn how to improve your mother-daughter relationship today. Every minute you delay prolongs the isolation your child feels while disconnected from you. She’s waiting for you to figure it out, so why not skip the “trial and error” parenting route? 


Don’t forget to book your free Clarity Consult


Mothers Day In October 

Mothers, Isn’t It Time You Took a Day Off? 

The world values time off, as evidenced by the three-day weekend. Everyone knows you can’t work continuously without a break, at least, not without breaking down. So, Mothers, answer honestly – when was the last time you took some time for yourself?

IF you can remember that far back. did your “time off” do its job? Did it actually help you feel sufficiently rested, and ready to jump back into the fray?

Or, did you find you had trouble relaxing during your time off because you felt guilty for not being there for your family? 

Why Do Mothers Feel Guilty About Taking Time Off? 

Awesome Moms all over the country feel steeped in guilt when they try to do something for themselves. Why? Why do mothers expect themselves to be “on the job” 24/7, 365 days a year? After all, any other “job” would have built-in breaks that you would be expected to take.

As a mother, though, you don’t get weekends off, holidays off, or even vacations off. If anything, mothers get one day off a year – and that’s Mother’s Day. That’s gotta change, for your sake, and for your family’s sake.

What if you could learn to prioritize “me time” without feeling unnecessary, unproductive guilt? What if you celebrated Mothers Days more than once a year?

Join Me For Mothers Day In October 

Parenting Strategies

Hi, I’m Deborah Ann Davis. I’m here to help Awesome Moms like yourself realize that you not only deserve guilt-free Me Time – you need it! I’ve spent many years working with Awesome Moms, utilizing my B.S. in education, my M.Ed. in Supervision, and my certification as a W.I.T.S as a Personal Trainer, to help moms just like you navigate the world of parenting. Now, I’m ready to help you, too! 

Get Ready for Our Next Mothers Day Event 

The next Mothers Day Event I’m holding will be on October 15th! Please join me, and other like-minded Awesome Moms like yourself, as we address how to attack Mommy Guilt, bust common Parenting Myths, disarm your Inner-Critic, and evaluate your Self-Awareness! 

If you act fast, you can get early bird pricing for this one-day interactive event, by moms, for moms, and about moms. Don’t wait – you, too, can learn how to reclaim a bit of your life, along with moms who share similar struggles. Come support, and be supported by, other Awesome Moms like yourself this October. 

Enhance Your Happiness! Get Expert Parent Coaching 

I’m Deborah Ann Davis, and I’m dedicated to helping Awesome Moms like you. Don’t feel awesome? Then, you’re in the right place, because my mission is to guide moms like you, to identify what you’re already doing right, and to support the areas that may be a little weak. As a personal coach, author, educator, and speaker, I use all of my expertise to bolster your situation, and help you reclaim your Awesomeness. 

Have questions? Contact me today. Don’t forget to book your free Clarity Consult




Have questions? Contact Deborah today.

About the Author

Deborah Ann Davis (B.S. in Science Education, M.Ed. in Supervision, and W.I.T.S Personal Trainer Certified) is a parenting strategist and coach.

Whether you’re looking to bring more positivity into your life, or you’re ready to seek the advice of a Parenting Coach, she’s eager to help you put happiness back into parenting.

Deborah has helped hundreds of families over the years, using her experience as an educator and a mother. She has decades of experience dealing with teenagers – as a mother and an educator.


Learn how to improve your mother-daughter relationship today. Every minute you delay prolongs the isolation your child feels while disconnected from you. She’s waiting for you to figure it out, so why not skip the “trial and error” route? 


Don’t forget to book your free Clarity Consult

How To Touch on Touchy Subjects with Your Kids

How To Touch on Touchy Subjects with Your Kids

School is starting again! All across the country moms are leaping for joy (after they lovingly usher their cherubs out the door, of course). With all your preparation for the new beginning, have you also prepared for the changes the new school year will inevitably dump in your lap?

Trust me, the touchy subjects are right around the corner. Now is the time to get ready—before the touchy subjects rear their ugly heads.

A Broaching Approach

I’ve broken down how to broach a touchy subject into 7 steps that every mom can follow.

Step 1. Once you know what you want to discuss, plan a time for a specific activity for just you and one daughter (make something together, polish your toenails, wash the car, etc.), something that puts you side-by-side (an on-the-same-side stance), instead of facing each other (confronting stance).

Step 2. While you are casually occupied (and building a fond memory), bring up ONLY ONE touchy subject, like:

∗ New Consequences for Household Rules

∗ Curfew

∗ Chores

∗ Screen Time

∗ Dating

∗ (Take your pick!)

Step 3. Broach the discussion in an indirect, theoretical manner. 

∗ “How does your best friend handle the situation emotionally?”

∗ “How do you think that behavior will benefit your friend when she’s 20 years old?”

∗ “What do you think her 30 year old self would say about the situation?”

∗ “What do you think is a healthy way to handle this?”

Now What?

Step 4. Listen to the answers. Listening will give you insight to your ever-changing child. Don’t judge. Do not contradict the opinions you are asking for. They are her opinions and she’s entitled to them. 

Step 5. When she’s done sharing, it’s your turn. Share what it was like for your friends or siblings back when they were kids. Recount a funny related memory, or describe the plot of a show that deals with this particular touchy subject.

Step 6. Invite her reaction to your conversation.

∗ “What would you have done differently?”

∗ “What was a good thing that came out of it?”

∗ “How would your friend have handled it?”

Step 7. Introduce the new rule/consequence/curfew/chore, and explain how things are going to play out going forward. 

Dealing With an Upset Daughter

If she gets upset with the new rule/consequence/curfew/chore, or wants to contest the new rule/consequence/curfew/chore, invite her to research evidence that supports her view, and bring it to you tomorrow. You will do the same. 

Then set aside time for another casual activity for just the two of you to do while you discuss the topic further. However, you always reserve the right, as the adult in the room, to make the final call. I wouldn’t worry about that, though. If you come armed with your research, your darling won’t be able to argue with your decision.

Preparation Will Ensure Success

Once you determine your topic for discussion, do your homework. Research evidence that supports your view.

Pick an activity for the two of you to do during your discussion, plus a second one, just in case there’s a follow-up. Once you’ve selected the relevant show/story you want to share, you’re ready (even if you feel a little shaky about it).

Now, go for it!


Deborah Ann Davis (B.S. in Science Education, M.Ed. in Supervision, and W.I.T.S Personal Trainer Certified) is a parenting strategist and coach. She is dedicated to supporting awesome moms like you. Her mission is to help mothers identify what they’re already doing right, and then supplement the areas that may need a boost. She uses all of her expertise as an award-winning author, coach, educator, and speaker to bolster your individual situation. 


Have questions? Contact Deborah today.
Don’t forget to book your free Clarity Consult