I hope you’re enjoying
How To Keep Your Daughter From Slamming the Door.
Below is a downloadable Post-Assessment, one of the documents that accompany the book.
Print it out for you and your daughter, and follow the directions.
Thank You For Getting the Book! ENJOY THE JOURNEY!
In order to better recognize your progress, look at where you’ve been.
Think of taking a Post-Assessment as comparing your progress to your earlier baseline data, the Pre-Assessment.
Don’t go back and look at your Pre-Assessment until you are done taking the Post-Assessment. Otherwise, it will color your responses. Make sure you fill out your Awesome Mom Post-Assessment form – found in How To Keep Your Daughter From Slamming the Door – before you ask your daughter to participate.
DO NOT SHARE YOURS WITH YOUR DAUGHTER.
RECOMMENDED USE FOR THIS TOOL:
1. Download and print out the Awesome Daughter Post-Assessment form below.
2. Ask your daughter when it would be a good time to sit together and compare notes. Inform her that you are trying to see if your efforts have positively impacted your relationship.
3. Have your daughter locate her Pre-Assessment, but tell her that as part of the before-and-after process, you DON’T want her to look at what she wrote yet.
4. Have her PRIVATELY fill out the Post-Assessment form below.
5. Sit together while individually you compare your Pre-and-Post Assessments, and she compares her Pre-and-Post Assessments. Remind her that you will not be looking at what she wrote because you want to do another round. Don’t read what you either of you wrote. If you share your assessments now, it will interrupt the process. Instead, share what changes have taken place, and whether they are predominantly positive or negative. Let the conversation flow.
6. Share some of the strategies you’ve tried and get her feedback as to what felt good (or didn’t), and why. Use that info to tweak your process as you move forward.
7. When you’re done, ask her to tuck both of her assessments away for a couple of months, somewhere where you won’t find them. You do the same.
8. Put a reminder on your calendar for 1, 2 and 3 months from now to check your progress.
9. Go through the book How To Keep Your Daughter From Slamming the Door and adapt more exercises to resonate with you and your situation, repeating the ones that got good results. Set aside time by scheduling it on your calendar.
10. In a month or so, you and your daughter dig out the Assessments once again, fill out a new one, and share any changes – BUT DON’T SHARE THE ACTUAL ASSESSMENTS! Your job is to discuss CHANGES, not what was written. Sharing the written words can cause needless strife and insecurity.
Above are 10 Baby Steps toward a stronger, more positive relationship. I recommend you repeat this process monthly. Your consistent attention will open the avenues of communication, and make her recognize your efforts.