New schools are scary. Gone are the days of the one room schoolhouse, so most kids have to transition to a new school at least a couple of times during their educational journey. Growing up, my rural town used every available space to house their students.
To start, I attended Nursery School in Day Hall, then went on to Kindergarten in the Synagogue. First and second grades were in the Federated Church, but third grade was in the Arts & Sciences Building (today’s Town Hall). We started fourth grade in Central School, but mid-year they completed Halls Hill Elementary School, and we finished up there. Fifth and sixth grades were back in Central School. Seventh and eighth grades were in the new junior high wing of the high school. Finally, ninth through twelfth grades were in the high school.
That was 9 new schools over 14 years for me… within ONE school system!
You’d think that by the time we reached the high school, we’d all be accustomed to adjusting to a new school, but each change came with its own uncertainties and speculations. Although we eventually adjusted, to varying degrees new schools were still scary.
Dealing with a new school can create just as much anxiety in you moms as in the kiddos. Do you still have that How To Manual that came with your child? No? Don’t worry. I can help.
An Awesome Mom’s Question
I’m a mom to one amazing girl who is 11, and will be entering middle school in a couple of months. I’m super excited for her, but nervous at the same time, since we don’t know what next school year will look like. I would like to help my daughter adjust as best as possible in the transition from elementary school to middle school. Any advice?
Advice for Awesome Moms of New Middle Schoolers
Do I have advice for the first day of school? You bet I do! Here are 4 Parenting Strategies to get you started:
Parenting Strategy #1
The first thing to tell her (and yourself) is to not worry about next year. You got this! Just enjoy the summer.
Parenting Strategy #2
The second thing you do is schedule a walk through the school in July, just you and her (plus a map of the school).
Focus on locating structures, like:
- where various exits lead
- the gym
- sports fields
- locker rooms
- computer labs, etc.
Then schedule a follow-up visit to the school once she gets her school schedule.
- find her classrooms
- (and hopefully) her locker
- review the previous visit
These two visits should be done in addition to the one the school offers for orientation. That will make a total of 3 visits before the first day of school. Familiarity will make a huge difference in her comfort level and her ability to adjust to her new surroundings.
Parenting Strategy #3
Another strategy is to connect with another mother whose student is a grade higher than your daughter. Pick her brain about what she did to help her child adjust. Inquire as to any pitfalls you can help your child avoid at her new school.
Parenting Strategy #4
And, what about your own experience? Never minimize the benefits of your own personal experiences. You’ve gone through plenty of transitions in your life. Think back on how you felt, how you dealt, and how you eventually reached your own level of comfort in your new surroundings.
Regardless of how you handled it back then, your daughter or son has an advantage. They got you in their corner when they’re facing their new school.
You got this, Mommy!
Have fun with your kids today!
This advice applies to the transition to any new school, from Kindergarten to College, not just Middle School. The more familiar the surroundings, the easier it is to succeed.
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You can also find a lot more in-depth information on this topic in my book, How To Keep Your Daughter From Slamming the Door.
About the Author
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